on friendships…

While we wish we could be the puppeteer in our friend’s lives at times, our job is simply to support. It can be very difficult to sit back watching as they struggle but to put it bluntly, they have every right to mess up their lives just as we do. We all process and learn things in our own time, our own way and though easily identified from the outside we must remember that we are not emotionally vested in said situation/relationships. When emotions are involved, seemingly easy tasks can become a daunting battle. If pushed too hard, our friends can feel unsupported and tend to distance themselves. It is in this time, they need the support of friends and loved ones more than anything.

Supporting someone unconditionally is not an easy venture and involves the management of our own emotions. It’s natural to feel protective, angry and somewhat annoyed when sticky situations arise but we must remember that our friends see it in their own way. This isn’t saying you can’t make your fears and worries known however, it can be relayed with love, respect and kindness. You may just be the only person whom they feel truly hears them and this will be reciprocated the next time you are in need.